February 28, 2017
I hope you all had a lovely week! I’m totally itching for March to start. I have a couple of exciting huge opportunities ahead, slightly nervous, slightly over the top excited just like a kid at a candy store! (Eeeep)
I thought I’d inject a popular cliche quote into a short blog post because I simply wanted to express how crucial it is to surround yourself with the right people.
My uncle once told me, “five people around you are crucial to your success..” He’s a self-made millionaire; extremely focused & very headstrong. He’s given me constructive advice a few times in a year, but those short meaningful conversations always lingered within.
The famous Jim Rohn, once said, “‘You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with..”. That being said, we are all simply influenced, heavily or not, like it or to, by the five (at most) people we choose to surround ourselves with.. Our subconscious clearly knows this, but, until someone points it out, it’s not as obvious.. We enjoy being around people who make us feel comfortable; but now I have realised it’s best to hang out with people who make who can make you feel uncomfortable about where you are in life, to the point where they’ll make open your damn eyes in order to reach your full potential, in order to achieve happiness and any type of goal you desire..
People who make you realise you need to make better decisions in life, those who are honest and blunt and will not sugar coat everything. It’s those who actually will break you by constructive criticism, shake you- until you become the person you’re supposed to be. Sometimes, we all need five people who will give us a damn wake up call.
By surrounding ourselves with these five people the most, it can greatly affect our train of thought, our decisions and of course, our self-esteem. Even though we are our own person with our own unique flawed mindset, we are far more affected by the people and our environment that we actually think. Blimey. If you are surrounded by losers, you’ll eventually become one, if you are surrounded by winners, you’ll eventually become one.
Furthermore, it’s good to step away from everything and think in silence for a moment, “whom do I surround myself with the most..” Jot down those five people. You need to value your time most appropriately if you truly want to be successful in life. If Felicia is consuming most of your time as a ‘friend’ and she’s not a good influence reflecting badly your happiness and success, then what are you doing. Really, what are you doing..
I am not just talking about money, materialistic in life, but true happiness too. Being around the best type of people will bring out your true potential. Life is too short to throw away your potential and happiness. I discussed my work matter with a good friend and he came out with advice, thoughts which I had never really considered at all. You see successful strong mindsets will point out your strengths and weaknesses; through their trials and errors will help you stay on the right path. My friend had pointed out some of my weaknesses, some I had no idea about. But, I needed to know. I felt utterly shit, but through his consistent help, I was able to overcome some of my weaknesses and wish I had surrounded myself with him a lot more since I met him!
I was challenged mentally and because he’s one/five people I choose to surround myself I know I’ll be successful. Because of his consistent advice, I was able to achieve my first goal of the year and it’s pretty life changing too. I’ve met dozens of people in my life, due to the industry I have chosen to be in and it’s safe to say these types of people are extremely rare to come by.
You need to surround yourself with people who actually want to help you, see you improve, care about your wellbeing and those are striving for success too. If you know people who you believe will help you and want to see you improve then make a conscious effort to spend more time with them. Text/call most times when you need it, see them in person if so! Don’t let them go.
It’s extremely rare to come across people who genuinely want to see you well and do well. We live in a rat race. “Friendships will carry you where money won’t go..”.
I mean I can only count on my hand the people who actually want to see me do well, due to their amazing help, the rest, sadly do not. Fact. Most people don’t want to see you succeed.
The five people I choose to surround myself with have a very strong mindset, are extremely hard working, down to earth and actually want to help others. It’s sickening how they are, you almost feel like you can’t keep up. “Are they even human?!?!” is something I giggle to myself because if their whole mindset was sold in a drink, everyone would want a taste. And never go back to how they once were. These five people are always achieving goals, here there and everywhere and surrounding myself with them is definitely the smartest decision I have ever made. I admire them so much. I feel like I can take on the world when I’m in contact with them. Those vibes are rare to come by, since everyone is so busy competing with each other and want to put others down to make themselves feel better.. Zzz
I admire their traits. Everyone claims to be “busy” these days, but only a few are actually busy and a few who are productive. Some are just busy looking at memes and some are actually busy working their damn butts off! I’m always in contact with these 5 people, we may not see each other as often as we like to, but whenever I am in contact with them I feel like a huge weight is off my shoulders. I know I can take on the world with my sassy self; their encouragement and support are something that money can not buy.. The goals I had set myself in January have been met and it’s coming to the end of February.. achieved in less than 2 months. Damn. I might have spoken briefly about a couple of goals in my January post. I decided to set some life changing goals; I was extremely quiet about them, decided to smash the hell out of them and now I clap for my damn self.
Yes, ultimately you think for yourself and you are in charge of your life, but the five people around you will also make a huge difference. I am extremely excited for March and I just can’t believe what’s happening. Without these five amazing people, I wouldn’t be where I am heading now and happier than ever about the journey I am on! My mum told me “tell me who your friends are and I will tell you who are you..”.
My friends: they’re always honest, hard working, successful, supportive, down to earth and very inspiring- with added hilarious humour. #foundmygems
Now, if you want to see drastic changes, change who you surround yourself with the most! If you have a one in a million amazing individual in your life, keep them close by. I am so grateful my good friend Jess & I had a really good conversation everything from life, relationships and goals. She made me really open my eyes & having friends who do that is a blessing. It’s imperative to be around people who are honest, open up and actually care! I love her work ethic & positive strong nature. She inspires me.
Who inspires you? I know everyones mindset is completely different, but if you want to be successful, you have to think differently..
If you’re stuck in a rut right now, think about this quote closely.
Have an amazing week everyone! People message me all the time about me writing up more, I guess, ‘life experiences’ and advice, so here is my own version… You could possible turn around and call it whatever, but if I have inspired you, then I’ve done what I have set out to do..
Take care, and remember to stay amazing!
*stuffs more pancakes in her mouth and more* – Happy pancake day!