We broke up… At Elan Cafe!

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Strawberry cheesecake was the best I’ve had in London.. I could intake 10 more, no joke.

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Hey lovlies..

I hope you’re well…

Adjourned.. Separated.. Terminate.. the negative, society’s idiotic implements of bullet points of what to do in order to be “successful”, “rich”, “famous”, the box we must adjust to otherwise you’ll fall behind.. I have broken up with the negative cliches of this generation we endure subconsciously and consciously on a daily basis. I’ve been there, done that, wore the t-shirt, burnt flat on my face with exhaustion, I’ve felt enormously guilty of not succeeding in timeframes and so forth. The bullshit breakup is done.

From this day forward, in 2019, I will not cater to indirect, or direct unnecessary  pressures in life, I will not burn myself out for anyone, I will not feel guilty for not completing a to do list, I will not listen to people who say you need to do this or that in order to achieve this or that. Again, I’m going to ignore the perfunctory negatives. This year, I want to fulfil my life of being positive, feeling positive and endure incoming ridiculously positive vibes! 

Me and 2018 broke up, never getting back to looking to the past, never looking at what happened, what ifs, what should, what went right, what went wrong.. Frantically thinking of a 2019 post to write, I thought I’d just say whatever was on my mind; instead of comparing to what I’d like to achieve this year, to what I had achieved last year, I’m going with the flow.. I’ve broken up with all the cliche’s, new year new me bullshit cycle and most importantly broken up with thinking every year I should have bigger goals, bigger dreams, aim for more, to do, see more, be more.. But why not just be, live in the moment. Obviously and of course, be all that, be the best you can be, but the fixation of all of that, the added pressure, the stress, lets face it, it can be.. isn’t really living in the moment.. 2019, is to live in the moment, aim high of course, but to just be, feel free, if one day I end up in bed, eating a packet of crisps, just Netflix binging, then so be it.. I shouldn’t beat myself up, or feel guilty for giving myself time off.. The whole year, basically every month, I always worked my ass of, especially last year, I became exhausted, stressed at times, I’d always give myself pressure.. for what, no really for what? 

So I’ve broken up with cliche cycles and finally I feel free. I don’t give a shit anymore if I don’t achieve extremely high goals in an unrealistic amount of time. I don’t care if I have repeated some mistakes over and over and I don’t care if my to-do isn’t done in time.. because you know what? I’m living. I’m living my life. I’m enjoying it all… I don’t want to feel any pressure, guilt, nor stress. If I achieve one goal quicker than expected, or if it taking even more than a year, then so be it! If I want to relax for a whole day, then so be it. If things don’t go to plan, or if something fails.. so be it. I’m not a bad person, it doesn’t mean I am not successful, ups and downs have no indication of how hard you word. Life isn’t perfect, it’ll never be..

This isn’t a self memo to say, hey, be lazy, don’t go the extra mile.. it’s more of self reflection in general, to stop beating myself up when shit doesn’t go my way, or done quickly, or achieved in the time frame. Life will always have its ups and downs and for once I’m going to embrace being a decent human in this world.. Mental notes have been made for personal, professional and so forth goals, but I wont beat myself up or feel shit when people judge etc.. I’ve broken up with societies idea of ‘life’, new year new me, to do lists, achievements which 99% fail in the unrealistic time frames etc.. I have broken up with dumb ass society cliches. I am free. I am living life! I am in my 20s, it’s time to embrace is fully! 

Have you ever felt this way? For once, I feel amazing, stress free and happy with these adjustments.. That’s my new years res, to be happy and healthy, no matter what it looks like to others. 🙂

 

thanks for being part of this blog journey, I appreciate all comments, views, direct mssgs and emails.. I read them all

 

<3 XTINE

 

 

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25 Comments

  1. January 3, 2019 / 12:26 pm

    Very fun read! Great pictures!

  2. January 3, 2019 / 12:38 pm

    I love this attitude for the new year! Be strong and write your own story, not the story that the world wants to write!

  3. January 3, 2019 / 3:17 pm

    Very interesting post to read and the pictures are super awesome. Thanks for sharing this… Happy New Year.

  4. January 3, 2019 / 4:07 pm

    First off, that strawberry dessert looks amazing! Second off, go you! Love life. Enjoy life. Be who you are. Love who you are. It’s not always easy to do but it is freeing.

  5. January 3, 2019 / 8:49 pm

    Well, good for you! And what a fantastic café! I wish I knew of this place when we were in London as few months ago…My daughter would have loved it too! All the best…I hope 2019 treats you better! xx

  6. January 3, 2019 / 9:18 pm

    I have to say I am with you in regards to breaking up with 2018. 2019 is our year babe!

    • lovesxtine
      Author
      January 3, 2019 / 9:34 pm

      Hey, Thanks that means a lot to me. WOoo, yay go us 😛

  7. January 3, 2019 / 10:16 pm

    What an amazing place that cafe looks like! I love your way of thinking about the end of 2018. I do hope 2019 brings an amazing year for you filled with new adventures.

  8. January 3, 2019 / 11:52 pm

    I love your attitude. Here’s to a year of positive movements forward. God bless!!!

  9. January 3, 2019 / 11:59 pm

    That was a cool read! Hope your strength will continue throughout the year, and years to come.

  10. Ariel
    January 4, 2019 / 3:05 am

    First off I love the pictures it’s like my dream world 😂. I loved the post! We definitely have a similar mentality when it comes to resolutions. While, I don’t want to remain stagnant it’s also important to not get overrun with goals that we as people will end up beating ourselves up over.

  11. Kristine Nicole Alessandra
    January 4, 2019 / 5:42 am

    I broke up with nasty 2018 too. All it gave me was stress, tears, and major frustrations. I will do my best to make 2019 a year of happy days. If my family will be blessed with a clean bill of health, that would be the a blessing I would be forever grateful for.

  12. January 4, 2019 / 12:13 pm

    Oh yes, love life and enjoy life! On another note, that strawberry cheesecake looks divine! Yum! 🙂

  13. Catherine Santiago Jose
    January 4, 2019 / 1:12 pm

    You are so pretty in every shots and that is a nice place to go with your friends. I admire you with that attitude living your life and making your life happy is one of the important thing to do. It is okay not to fulfill your goals on the exact time frame what important is you tried and you continue to fulfill those goals.

  14. January 4, 2019 / 1:29 pm

    I love this! It’s really important that you prioritize yourself. Enjoy life and be healthy!

  15. January 4, 2019 / 7:26 pm

    Great sentiment to bring in the new year. Congrats on ditching the negativity! Also really fun pictures!

  16. January 4, 2019 / 9:35 pm

    Good for you! That is a great decision and a really healthy one. Happy 2019!

  17. Becca Wilson
    January 4, 2019 / 10:33 pm

    I absolutely love that you have broken up with those silly cliche that society holds over our heads. You will be so much happier just doing what makes you happy and serves you best!

  18. Ave
    January 4, 2019 / 10:44 pm

    Being positive is the best way to be! We should try to eliminate all the negative things from our life asap! I’m sure you will have an amazing year!

  19. January 4, 2019 / 11:18 pm

    Wow, I could have easily written this myself since I have been feeling the same way lately. Here’s to a better year for us both!

  20. January 5, 2019 / 4:56 am

    Love this personal piece. I think it’s important to embrace life. Wishing you the best in 2019!

  21. January 5, 2019 / 6:09 am

    You are really rocking that outfit and those books. Good for you for you for breaking up with 2018 and not limiting yourself to the norm and what that should be or not be. I hope you succeed in health and everything else you strive for.

  22. January 5, 2019 / 11:54 am

    Very fun and interesting read! Gotta love those boots and Kate Spade. My girl would love them too! Great photos! Keep smiling!

  23. Jennifer Prince
    January 5, 2019 / 8:03 pm

    That conversation heart wall is so cute! I love it when places are creative like that, and everything looks yummy.

  24. Autumn Murray
    January 6, 2019 / 5:05 am

    Girl, those boots! Love them!

    Positivity is my middle name. I enjoyed your views and am hopeful that this new year brings you love and light.

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