Instagram Vs Reality.

Entertaining, gregarious, envious.. some words to describe Instagram.

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After 8 bloody selfies, I got it right.. Kinda thinking what is it like to be naturally pretty!
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OKAY- HOLD on… f*ccccck. I took another bomb ass pic.. Ok I can do it, I can be a blogger.. damn.. getting the right picture inst easy.
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anddd it feeeeeeeeeels good (8)
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I may look kinda cute, but I seriously need a good shower, get out of bed pjs, and these bloody old slippers. ahaha but no one can tell this by my cute pics #cute

“Influencers”, “Bloggers”, “Models”, the “Next Kim K”, the blonde bombshell girl with her new double d lips, can, sometimes, without doubt, subconsciously make you feel like shit. A piece of crap. Inadequate..The kinda crap which makes you look at yourself in a different way.. In a bad way. Those perfect angles, lightening, sharp crisp clean photos drizzled in the most envious location wearing a dazzling outfit in an unreachable and unattainable lifestyle.. Do you remember Habbo hotel? set up your “Insta” perfect life, well thats Instagram, you choose what to show; it’s creating an unblemished life, whether close to verisimilitude or not, it’s one you only show to the world, because it makes you feel better.. 

I understand. I do. Because I am guilty of showing the ‘fab-u-lous-‘ side! Truth is: I don’t sit at pretty cafes all the time, I definitely don’t look anywhere at hot in real life that my pictures, I’m mostly wearing anything but something instagrammable and my real life is anything but ‘like’ worthy! Instagram doesn’t truly show our real lives! 

A music video photo/shoot. You’ll never see the media production which takes place.. The highs, lows, reality.. I know that for sure, because I’ve been on many and when people see the outcome, they’re like I WISH I WAS IN THAT. NO FELICIA. IT WAS ANYTHING BUT GLAM. cold, raining, tired, 13hours+ on set.. I’d rather skip the ‘in between’ and be present at the good parts, but you know what, it’s the journey and what goes into it which count.

Blogger/Infuencer/Model whatever you want to name it, isn’t instagrammable, the end product is. and for that reason, you shouldn’t envy it, you shouldn’t hate yourself or your life because of it. There is a story behind every picture and some took serious dedication, sacricifes and some hard times to get it right! 

We all have our showreel of bloopers, funny, sad, crazy, extra crazy and ‘why am I doing this for Instagram’ kinda crazy.

So before you start to dislike yourself over what others “like”, remember whoever is behind that picture is very much LIKE YOU! 🙂

  1. It took precisely and embarrassing 15 selfies to get 3/4 right ones.. 15?! 
  2. The lighting came from ONE small section in my bedroom, so in fact I couldn’t move very much… frustrating and annoying.
  3. The camera is quite heavy.. yes THE BIG ONES.. so a selfie with that was like a selfie coming from a brick.. Not so glam.
  4. Prepped makeup three times, because, lighting was so good, but it wasn’t good for my face I ended up with spots the next day.. #spotted
  5. I needed a shower so desperately and was in my PJs and old slippers.. #gross
  6. My hair isn’t always this ‘photoshoot ready’ I think I used half of my hairspray…


Instagramable? Only the end result.

Do you want to see more of my Instagram VS REALITY pictures? I promise laughs, for you..

Have a fab easter! My gorgeous bf already got me mine before I got his #reallifeLIKE




  1. April 12, 2019 / 10:32 pm

    I love this. We live in a world where people share their lives via social media, but we don’t realize that the finished product is just that – a FINISHED product. We don’t see the real life, we just see what was intended. We all do it, and I include myself in that.

    • lovesxtine
      April 12, 2019 / 10:38 pm

      GLAD you loved it Stacie, I literally thought about it 4 hours away and decided to blog it. It’s true, it IS all an end product!!! oxox Have a lovely easter Ill check your blog and comment on it too

  2. April 13, 2019 / 10:14 am

    I like it how you have put it all together simply. We must really start liking our real self, our true self. 😊

  3. April 13, 2019 / 11:29 am

    As long as you’re happy and that you’re not doing anything wrong to others, I think this is all Ok. :0)

  4. April 13, 2019 / 3:12 pm

    I hate how the Instagram craze has such a negative impact on our self esteem or self worth. Most of what we see online is staged these days, and even though we know much of it is phony, we fall into the trap of “I wish I were more like that”. We need to work more on self love and less on how others present themselves and their perfect lives online.

  5. Brianne Tursi Manz
    April 13, 2019 / 3:47 pm

    I was just talking about this the other day with my husband! So many people who don’t know anything about blogging, they think that it’s easy work, etc., don’t realize that “staged” Instagram photos are almost like a commercial. In a commercial, you don’t see the kids coming downstairs, tired and upset that mommy doesn’t have their favorite sugary cereal. The same goes with an Ig photo. I don’t know anyone who wakes up refreshed, with their hair done and holding a cute coffee mug in their hand, sitting in their bed.

  6. Heather
    April 14, 2019 / 2:16 am

    What a fun post. There is a difference between the two, that’s for sure!

  7. April 14, 2019 / 2:18 pm

    I know IG can be very toxic as you really want to put the best photos there but I really believe in authenticity. I really love a good natural photo.

  8. Kiwi
    April 15, 2019 / 10:40 pm

    Sometimes I think people get consumed with the photo and the vanity and not the experience. We need to be more in the moments and even if you are taking “perfect” shots as a blogger/influencer etc…after the photo is posted who are you really? Are you defined by all of your pictures?

  9. Ronnie
    September 21, 2019 / 8:36 pm

    I love seeing Insta vs real photos. It reminds me that no one is perfect, no matter how touched up their photos are. It’s imperfections that make us uniquely beautiful. I feel like people’s imperfections are being erased all the time and a lot of Insta models all look the same now… 🙁

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