Do you have a funny friend.. #Luxegal

 

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“you’re honestly one of the funniest people I’ve met..” “you’re genuinely funny and I don’t think you know actually it Christine..” “literally could laugh all day with your jokes..” naww, thanks felicias! 

the funny girl, unintentionally funny; I don’t think I am that funny (yeah, I know I’m not some boring ca-aaant). Although, yah, I much prefer being complimented on my personality, how people see me towards themselves and others than being ‘beautiful, pretty etc..’  Attractive or funny.. because it takes a little more effort to compliment on the latter that my friend is quite flattering as someone took the effort to analyse you in a good way, rather than a simple “pretty’, it shows a little more depth into that person, too, they see beyond the human eye..

The preponderance part of christine-desiree’s life had been premeditated greatly to make others laugh out loud, the ’Christine comedian’.. tempestuously climbing trees as a child while simultaneously performing funny sarcastic replies to my father when he called me for dinner in our garden because I refused to eat (fussy eater???wtf, I know what a shock to the present, eh).. Humour had been and will always be my shield-  Predominately a psychological salve. 

Regarding humour in daily life; whilst I was in groups/work/family/friend’s, even strangers..(I know, what a weirdo) I’ll consistently be as bubbly as procesco, crazy goofy, funny geeky witty theatrical friend. I’m a walking funny foetus for sure.., eh (!) 

If you went through my camera roll, years upon end on mac pics & bits, other than selfies- (which I rarely take anymore), you’ll find pictures of me showing off 4 chins, how big is my penis pics and videos you’d think okay this foetus is mad (ahaha), it’s a recuuring theme: F U N N Y.

I’d much perfer a picture of me laughing/smiling laugh than a forced looking like I am about to take the biggest shit of my life, pose. Also, each photo will bring back memories of those moments; the time clifton took a photo of my jumping on a HUGE tower stand next to christmas tree and joking I nearly fell IN IT and nearly had fallen.. My job is predominately in the entertainment /media industry, always always around people, we laugh, they love it, I enjoy it, it makes everyone feel good about themselves and comfortable, espeically as I meet hundreds of new people a week.. Essentially humour is a great diffuser. If laughter is the best medicine, then I am most certainly a drug dealer.


YAS QUEEN (!)

So, I can tell you this from my experience: Your funny friend is struggling inside and you have no idea..

I struggle with anxiety and severe depression and hardly anyone would know it. I know, penis enlargement/yo daddy jokes and taking the utter piss out of myself, you wouldn’t, who would extract it from that type of behaviour I display? No one. 

Some days I really hoped someone would see through the ‘funny girl’ mask, but how could they?!? Colleagues, friends every single one just busted out their balls giggling til their throats couldn’t take anymore.. complimenting how strong and funny I am to get through so much. I’d go home and cry alone, only to spend the whole day making others feel good and laugh, anyone but myself.. Overlooked, prejudged and too busy with my mask to even question the truth.

A comedian we all know of and shocked by: Robin Williams’s suicide some years ago left the world questioning, for once, how a comedian could have been suffering so hard, enough to take his own life. I understood. In conclusion us funny friends are often the least likely to be asked how are you, are you really okay? and less likely to come forward and ask for help at all.

Secrets your banter-saurus friend keep from you:

We don’t want to load you with our downfalls..
 Humour is our superpower, imperium.. We don’t want to bring you down with all the downfalls of life, which are negative; so we become such a people-pleaser, anything which is considered a downfall or negative goes into a box, we don’t want to reveal it..We don’t want to add any unnecessary lows to your own list of problems, so we keep private even if we make you laugh and we laugh too, sometimes we are dying inside..

Terrified you’ll stop laughing.
Domination.. We love performing for you and the comical side for us is the way that we control and dominate our surroundings (in a good way FYI). It is our escapism, where we drift from the hurt pain of the pain into the present with smiles and laughs, even for a second. There is this constant fear of what will happen if you stop laughing. We  navigate our emotions by laughing because we may not feel strong enough to handle what is truly underneath. In convulsion its a way to distract and convince you (FYI ourselves too) that we are okay (!) (We ARENT OKAY)

Scared to  be rejected.
Dynamic.. Totally afraid of terminal day we stop being that comedian is the day we lose our identity. We are scared you’ll see our vulnerable side because we have no way of knowing if you’re around for us, or just around for the show.. we’re afraid of rejection. totally and utterly afraid… If you stopped laughing, perhaps you will see how vulnerable we feel, leave the funny foetus show and never look back?

What to do to help

1. By asking how are you..?! How are you? Hows work really going? Don’t let us fool you, find out how your funny friend is underneath the mask! We are empathicby making you laugh as we’ve asked how you are, so would like the reciprocated too.

2. Learn how to cope a bit better..?! Funny friends feel the constant need to save you. We don’t always want to be superwoman as much as she’s ballsy and terribly perfect. We feel like a therapistsometimes, to bust out another 1/1000 funny jokes, to pull you through, we don’t mind it, but not 24/7, if you cope better it leaves us feeling like the weight of everyones shoulder is on us, please help yourself. 

4. Listen and check in! Humor is the best known anti-depressant.. Apart from the anti-depressants, humour, we need that human emotional connection, too. Truth is theres so much pain behind the scenes, so much more, the smiles create an ultimate barrier behind it.. Check on us, here and there, everywhereeee, be magical and always let us know you’re there, for good, even when the silly jokes stop. 


 

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Stay magical!

XTINE

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13 Comments

  1. June 16, 2019 / 7:59 pm

    My best friend is my happy pill! We can just literally laugh the whole time we are together. It’s more personal and I’m more comfortable with her telling my corny jokes. Hahaha!

  2. June 17, 2019 / 2:20 am

    It’s really hard when you are upset but use humor to mask things, but it’s also really hard to read someones mind. I think it’s awesome you are taking the steps to sharing how you really feel – it’s a great way to get the support we all need 🙂

  3. Elizabeth | Tired Mom Supermom
    June 17, 2019 / 2:58 am

    This is a lovely article on friendship. Sometimes things are deeper than they seem arent they

  4. Lavern Moore
    June 17, 2019 / 3:09 am

    I am the funny friend of all my friends. I identify totally with your sentiments!

  5. June 17, 2019 / 9:43 am

    My sister is the one who always makes me happy. Thank god that she is my sister and also my best friend.

  6. June 17, 2019 / 10:41 am

    Humor is the best-known anti-depressant indeed! I love funny people, we all have our problems – but why not to focus on the good stuff! Life is short – we all need to laugh more! Love your sense of humor “pictures of me showing off 4 chins” – everyone should have one! lol

  7. June 17, 2019 / 11:46 am

    I really liked this is post on friendship. There have been professional comedians who’ve battled, and lost, their fight with depression; but, you would not realize what they’re going through. It’s important to check our friends’ mental health status from time to time.

  8. June 17, 2019 / 12:30 pm

    I love being around my BFF. She is hilarious and no matter how I feel before I see her after I do, I’m laughing until I’m crying. That outfit is just adorable. I love white clothing.

  9. Ronnie
    June 17, 2019 / 7:45 pm

    A close friend of mine is very similar in that regard – super funny, outgoing, charismatic. She is constantly surrounded by friends, but the moment she hits depression (which is often) all her friends disappear. They only want the fun version of her. 🙁 You can never know what’s behind the mask unless you become very close!

  10. Kristine Nicole Alessandra
    June 17, 2019 / 9:13 pm

    I can totally relate with this post. I have always been considered the “funny one” by my friends. Little do they know that I am barely getting by with trying to hide my anxiety. My cousin is the same way too – extremely funny, always laughing, always greets you with a smile, but most people who don’t know her are unaware that she is battling breast cancer. This post just goes to show that the funny ones we know are just trying to uplift their spirits.

  11. Rosey
    June 18, 2019 / 12:44 am

    I’d rather have happy photos in my albums than stiff ‘smile’ pics. My kids are all cards, so it’s easy to get the real pics here, and I cherish them.

  12. June 20, 2019 / 3:21 am

    did not expect the post to turn out like that but i guess to add further to what you explained. be prepared to see your funny friend in a new light… judgment is the last thing they need.

  13. Elizabeth O
    June 21, 2019 / 6:23 pm

    Being content and happy as we are is the perfect antidote for our life stresses. Keep smiling as a smile is a gift we give to others and to ourselves.

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